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The Sacred Marriage

A Sacred Marriage (or equivalent romantic relationship) has varied definitions.

This is how I describe it-

  1. In a Sacred Marriage, both partners are in love with themselves before they fall in love with each other. Or, they learn to love themselves as they journey together. There is no question of one partner completing the other with their love. Both partners are whole and complete in themselves, and this whole and complete love is shared and enjoyed.
  2. The energy of ex-romantic partners (if any) is cleared, so it doesn’t interfere with the energy dynamics between the couple. When exes linger in the energy field, it blocks a couple from achieving their highest potential together. When old energy is cleared, the field is fertile for new possibilities to take birth.
  3. The primary focus of a Sacred Marriage remains on love. When love is first priority, differences don’t feel like a big deal anymore. Partners may even grow to love one another’s differences. They recognise the strength their differences bring to the relationship.
  4. The longer couples are together, the more each partner gets to see the good, bad, and ugly in the other partner. However, since love seals the relationship, the relationship remains alive even after the passing of the honeymoon phase- when we feel so intoxicated we notice only the good! It is possible to sustain that feeling of intoxication provided one is willing to vibrate at the higher frequency of unconditional love! I can’t explain how exactly this works but when you love unconditionally, the romance feels as alive as it did when you first met. It’s possibly just the power of love at work.
  5. Love becomes the foundation of sexual connection. Intimacy ceases to be a primal or mechanical activity to be checked off one’s to-do list. It evolves into a sacred platform to share and experience the depths of love with another soul.

Unconditional love – for self and for the other – is integral to the building of a Sacred Marriage.

Don’t let this list intimidate or discourage you! The purpose of sharing this is to put forth the perspective of love being the building block in a Sacred Marriage.

Don’t worry if your partner doesn’t understand this kind of stuff. Just do your part.

To be honest, though I am the energy healer here, it was my husband who demonstrated the true meaning of unconditional love to me. He didn’t worry if I would ever get it! He just loved for the sake of love.

Over years, I learnt from who he was and the capacity to love unconditionally was awakened within me too. So, all you have to do is work on yourself and not worry about whether your partner is working as hard as you or not.

Remember, your soul has picked a specific person to be your partner for a reason. Honour your soul’s choice without comparing yourself to other couples. You are exactly where you are meant to be. And when you do your inner work, the Universe pitches in to support you in every way possible.

If you resonate with this article, it means there is every possibility you have it in you to build a Sacred Marriage. Or you are already in one and you just have to recognise it.

I wish you love, joy, and peace!

P.S: This does not apply to relationships that are abusive in nature. No one must put up with abuse of any kind. Seek professional help if you are in a toxic relationship.

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Healing Through Reframing: Pregnancy

That early morning when I first saw the positive line on the pregnancy test kit, I was overjoyed.

I was like –

“Oh my God! Is this really true?”

And some months later, when I felt the first little kick, I was again like –

“Oh my God! The baby kicked!”

While a part of me was super happy about my pregnancy, a part of me was uncomfortable too.

I had been conditioned to believe by many women in my family that pregnancy and labour were among the most difficult and unpleasant experiences a woman could have.

It would be a lie to say that pregnancy is not uncomfortable.

However, discomfort is part of the process. It’s nature working its creative magic. Discomfort and pain are part of the game. When perspective shifts, the same discomfort doesn’t bother you much anymore.

When I began this journey of healing my womb, I rewired my negative conditioning, by going back in time and telling my pregnant self-

“I accept the discomfort – the fatigue, the nausea, the aches and pains, the urge to pee, the disturbed sleep that follows and everything else that makes pregnancy what it is. My body is working hard to create a miracle. And I support the process by being completely in tune with my body, resting when I need to, staying active when I can and just surrendering to the flow. I recognise the fact that my womb is partnering with the Universe so new life may spring forth and this is no small feat. I completely respect and honour the process. I see the magic in it and I choose to enjoy it!”

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A Visit To The Sacred Temple Of The Womb

You are walking through a lush green meadow.

The colours and scents of the flowers leave you mesmerized.

Birds chirp melodiously in unison.

The air feels fresh and pure.

Your heart tells you to stop and smell the flowers.

You take off your shoes, sit down and place your bare feet on the soft grass.

You take a deep breath in and enjoy the numerous sights, sounds and fragrances.

You suddenly feel a gentle tap on your shoulder.

You turn around and see an Angel Of Light standing behind you,

She flashes the sweetest smile at you.

Her smile warms your heart.

The Angel says to you, “ Dear One, You have stopped at a very significant milestone. Everyone who walks through this meadow pays a visit to the ‘Sacred Temple.’ Would you like to see the temple too?”

“Dear Angel, what is within the Sacred Temple?” you ask.

“The Sacred Temple holds within it golden keys to unlock one of the greatest mysteries of the Universe – the Womb. Spending time there rewires your consciousness and opens you up to a greater understanding of the Womb.”

“Wow!” you say, “How do I find my way to the Sacred Temple?”

“Come with me. I am pleased to lead the way,” says the Angel and flashes another warm smile at you.

The Angel lends a hand to help you up, and with her palm in yours, leads you along.

You walk past enormous oak trees and a pristine lake.

After a while, you see a glittering golden structure in the distance.

“Is that the temple?” you ask.

“Yes!” says the Angel, “Come on.”

You arrive at the doorway of the temple and see that it is garlanded with dazzling golden flowers.

The Angel, still holding your hand, leads you in.

You now find yourself in a corridor adorned with more of those pretty golden flowers.

You now reach the end of the corridor and find yourself at another doorway.

You spot a glittering golden key placed in a basket beside the door.

“What a beautiful key!” you say to the Angel.

‘Yes!” says the Angel, ‘Go on. Pick it up.”

You reach for the key and look at the Angel.

“Unlock the door,” she says, smiling.

“Oh my!” you say, feeling butterflies in your tummy.

“Don’t worry. The journey through this doorway will be one you will look back on very fondly,” says the Angel, “Go on. Unlock the door.”

“Thank you, Angel,” you say and open the door with much anticipation.

When you open the door, you are taken aback.

All you are able to see is a dark space.

After all the glitter and golden you got to enjoy until this point, you feel a bit disappointed that all you are able to see now is darkness!

Sensing your disappointment, the Angel says, “Oh, don’t you be fooled! This space is not what it seems to be on the surface – all empty, dark and cold. You are here to explore this space. So, explore it first and draw your conclusions later.”

You smile at the Angel and know you can trust her words.

You take one step in. And then another.

And another…

And another…

And there you are – walking through absolute darkness, in surrender to the journey, open to any and all possibilities.

Welcome to the ‘WOMB!’

You are about to begin a journey of a lifetime.

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The First Reiki Attunement

I fondly remember the afternoon of my very first Reiki attunement in the November of 2007.

As I sat in the sacred space my Reiki teacher had created, I was in complete surrender to the Universe and open to all possibilities.

I did not see lights or feel very different during the attunement. It just felt like a quiet meditative experience.

However, as I made my way back home after the class, I developed a running nose.

This was followed by a high temperature that lasted four days.

My teacher said I had so much pain and darkness to clear from years gone by that my body had reacted strongly to the Reiki attunement and subsequent self-healing practice.

I intuitively felt she was right.

Years of pain and darkness – in the form of terror, anxiety, worry, imaginary ghosts, and manipulative humans who were a pain in the neck- pushed me to have a spiritual awakening.

When I suddenly came in contact with the higher frequency of Reiki, I believe the lower energies stored in my system were shaken up. And that’s why I experienced a healing crisis in the form of the flu.

Once the flu settled, I began to enjoy my Reiki practice.

I felt strong sensations of heat in my palms and also in my body. My palms often felt stuck to particular chakras and I remember heaving huge sighs of relief as energy flowed to them. Most of my chakras were in real need of strength and nourishment back then.

As Reiki flowed through me, I soon saw how it felt to breathe easy instead of tremble in fear.

I saw how it felt to co-create with the Universe rather than try to control every aspect of life.

I experienced the touch of a loving Higher Power rather than one that is inclined to instill fear.

I also developed the unshakable belief that I deserved nothing but the best in the area of human relationships – no more attracting fake friendships, manipulators, and tricksters – only people who are steady, simple, sincere, and authentic. And that is exactly what I ended up receiving.

Every Reiki attunement I have received has been significant in its own way and led to exponential growth. But the first one was truly a game-changer!

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Chakra Healing Analysis

Of the seven chakras, my crown and third eye have always felt open.

My throat and heart were partly open. They began to blossom further when I set foot on the healing path. It required years of extensive inner work to clear the many blocks and wounds they carried. But today, I can say confidently that they are over 90% open and healthy.

My sacral was also partially open. I began to experience deep healing of the sacral chakra in the year 2018 when I began my journey of ‘Healing The Womb.’ The healing of the sacral was near complete around the time Suraj and I co-authored the book ‘When Spirit Meets science’ in February 2019, which was immediately followed by a trip to Masai Mara in Kenya. I have no clue what shifted within me around that time period. But that book and trip together did something to complete my healing of the sacral chakra.

My guess is that the book helped me achieve Feminine-Masculine Energetic Union, and the energy of the land at Masai Mara helped with deeper integration of the healing. Today, I can say with pride and joy that my sacral has never felt so free and healthy!

Now, just the solar plexus and root chakras remain to be worked on! Almost all difficulties and challenges I face now are associated with these two chakras. Just observing how the philosophy of the Chakra System co-relates to my own life, helps me appreciate the wisdom in it.

I am being easy on myself as I work on my solar plexus and root because the journey has not been easy for me either. Unless I can be patient and compassionate with myself, there is no way deep healing can occur.

It may take some more years to complete the healing of these two chakras. But, no matter how long it takes, I am sticking with the process and making the most of the journey. Healing, after all, is a journey.

I intend that one day in the future, I will write another post and declare “All my seven major chakras are fully open, healthy, joyful, and in perfect balance. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”

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Your Health, Whose Responsibility?

Many of us think having one illness to deal with is a big thing in itself.

But ever so often, I hear of people who are battling so many illnesses all at once.

Every three months or so, Suraj will have a patient diagnosed with cancer but who also has been coping with multiple other illnesses, one after the other.

The patient profile will be somewhat like this-

  1. Smoker
  2. Obese
  3. Uncontrolled hypertension for 15 years
  4. Uncontrolled diabetes for 10 years
  5. Borderline kidney disease
  6. Heart attack 3 years back.
  7. Cardiac bypass done
  8. Stroke one year back
  9. And now another major surgery for cancer

Sometimes, non-smokers and people who aren’t obese also feature on this list.

I can’t help but wonder how someone can have so many bodily troubles all at once and what went wrong – physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually –  that they ended up in this position.

In some cases, it’s obvious people brought their misery upon themselves – as in the case of smokers, alcoholics, and people who don’t comply with medical advice with regards to medication and lifestyle. In other cases, the reason for their misery is not obvious and it may require some soul searching to arrive at an answer. I empathise more with the latter category.

There was one patient who had a history of multiple illnesses and was also diagnosed with cancer. Even after successful completion of his treatment for cancer, he landed in hospital every few months. Reason being – his addiction to smoking was making him fall sick over and over again – in different ways.

He was advised repeatedly to stop smoking. But he refused to even try – never mind that he had to end up in the ICU every few months.

Sometimes, such patients also have an attitude. They say – “Doctor, you don’t worry about my smoking. Your job is only to treat us, make us get well and out of this hospital.”

And when some such patients succumb to their illness, their family thinks the doctor was responsible for not helping them get better!

Never mind that the patient didn’t care to take any responsibility for their own health. And talk about conveniently placing the blame on others so we can be blind to our own shortcomings!

Unfortunately, law requires that anyone who comes in for conventional treatment be offered the same, irrespective of how they lead their lives or how they behave in hospital.

If people with such attitudes come to me for energy healing, I would bid them goodbye very soon and tell them I cannot help them set their lives right. And no one could sue me for it!

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Womb Rose Meditation

In this meditation, we will connect to the womb through the energy of the rose.

To me, the rose is symbolic of love, affection, beauty, joy, and abundance.

By using the rose as a bridge, we will enter the portal of the womb, blend the energy of the rose with the energy of the womb and see what this opens up for us.


  1. Sir or lie down in a comfortable position.
  2. Breathe in deeply through your nose and out through your mouth until you feel centered. This should take you a minute or two.
  3. When you feel ready, place your palms over your womb and breathe for a few more seconds.
  4. Visualise or feel an orange rose bud appearing within your womb. If you feel like picking some other colour, feel free to do so.
  5. With your awareness on the rosebud, continue to breathe.
  6. As you breathe, visualise or feel the rosebud blooming into a nice fragrant rose flower.
  7. See or feel the qualities of this rose filling up your womb space.
  8. Continue to breathe until your womb feels full with the energy of the rose.
  9. Now slowly, direct this rose energy blended with the energy of your womb to any or all of your other chakras. Keep breathing as the energy does its work.
  10. Now visualise or feel this womb rose energy moving out into your energy field and forming a cocoon around you. Breathe for a bit more.
  11. Be open to any insights you may receive at this time. If nothing comes into your awareness, that’s perfectly OK too. Just relax and enjoy the experience. Shifts can be very subtle and you don’t necessarily have to feel something all the time.
  12. When the process feels complete, move your body gently and open your eyes slowly.
  13. Express your gratitude to Womb Rose Energy.
  14. Drink some water and be with yourself for a while. Write down about your experience in your journal if you wish to.
  15. Repeat this meditation whenever you feel like it.

I am not going to tell you what you can or should expect from this meditation, for there is no way for me or for anyone to know about how it will unfold for you. These inner processes are very personalised. You will receive exactly what you need- depending on where you are in your journey as a woman and a soul. Trust the process and enjoy it!  

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When Wellness Is Part Of Medicine

I received my Covid booster shot at a hospital yesterday.

While I was waiting with several others in the lounge, I felt a bit nervous. Despite having received hundreds of shots over the years, that moment prior to receiving another one always brings on some anxiety.

A few minutes later, a young nurse arrived at the door. Just the manner in which she walked into the room – soft and gentle with a sweet smile – put me at ease.

“That’s a lovely energy!” I thought to myself.

When it was my turn, she first helped me to relax my hand and said,

“Take a deep breath in Ma’am.”

And I did that.

“You’ll feel a small prick now. Breathe out.”

And I breathed out.

As the needle went further in, she said gently again,

“Another deep breath in…and out…and you’re done!”

And I was like,

“Wow! That hardly hurt.”

I was so excited a wellness practice like breathing was part of a vaccination experience in a hospital.

Isn’t that one way for Spirit to meet Science?

I felt so grateful to this angelic nurse for making this experience of a few seconds a comfortable one for me and thanked her from my heart.

Vaccination is such a simple procedure. It may have hardly mattered even if she hadn’t done it this way. However, to someone like me, these small things make a huge difference.

As they often say in energy healing circles, “Your vibe attracts your tribe.”

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The Best Logical Decision Is Also The Most Intuitive One

This is the email address from which Haripriya mailed me way back in 2007. She sent them from this address after emails from another address of hers failed to reach me.

I remember telling her “Guess this email address of yours has more positive vibes than the other one!”

True to her email address, she was full of positive vibes too – a bubbly individual with a positive outlook on life.

She spoke of life in terms of energy, vibration, and frequency.

Being a lover of conventional science, I was initially astounded by her frequent usage of these terms in a totally different context!

However, in time, I got used to them and understood what she meant by them.

These words are an integral part of our lives now!

Be it a home to live in, a restaurant to dine at, or people to help around the house – everything is based on the ‘vibration’ they emit and how she ‘feels’ about something or someone.

Some years back, she even had an intuitive opinion about the ideal workplace for me. She knew nothing about that hospital but insisted it may be good for me. I did my own analysis and assessment of the space and found that it was indeed the best place for me to work at that point in time.

Our own relationship happened because she said she recognized my ‘vibe’ when she met me and it felt right! I am not sure I recognised her ‘vibe’ but I do know I liked her and was delighted to have crossed paths with her.

After we tied the knot, almost everything that needed decision-making as a family had to pass the litmus test of her intuition (feeling) and my logic (thinking).

Thankfully, most major decisions did pass both tests and we were on the same page!

There were instances when each of us was forced to view situations from the opposite perspective. The contrasting perspective helped bring more clarity, especially when we felt stuck with our usual approaches.

Eventually, we realised that though we operated differently, we arrived at similar decisions and solutions – only via different avenues.

Inspired by this journey, I wrote these words in our co-authored book ‘When Spirit Meets Science,’ – “The best logical decision is also the most intuitive one!”

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Womb Healing For Cesarean Birth Mamas

I know a lot of women who are unhappy about the fact that they required a cesarean section to bring their babies into the world.

They usually report feeling angry or inadequate, like they weren’t capable of giving birth naturally.

While it is perfectly normal to feel those emotions, this is a trauma you don’t want to carry in your womb. On the healing path, we have enough to deal with already. For our own well-being, it is best we learn to see things we couldn’t have done much about from higher perspectives so we may be free to move forward.

Womb Healing For Cesarean Birth Mamas

  1. Completely acknowledge the emotions you are feeling. Journal about them or use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). The more you acknowledge them, the faster they are neutralized and easier they become to release. This paves way for you to see the same upsetting event from a different perspective and heal yourself in the process.
  2. Reflect on why you needed a cesarean section in the first place. You would have been informed by your medical team about why you required the surgery. This surgery is done when allowing labour to progress naturally poses a risk to the baby or mother. Until several decades back, rates of infant and maternal mortality were pretty high. Women risked their lives in order to give birth. Thanks to advances in medicine that make a timely diagnosis of complications and intervention possible, mortality rates have been brought down significantly. Yes, you were deprived of your natural birthing experience. However, you or your baby also gained something in the process. Acknowledging the benefit you received will help you release the associated trauma faster and may even bring in feelings of gratitude.
  3. Contemplate on feelings of ‘let down’ you may be holding on to. If you feel like your body let you down by not allowing you to birth naturally, ask yourself if that’s true or if it’s just another limiting belief you’ve taken on. A lot of women hold on to the belief that in order to be seen as women they must be perfect in every way – fair, beautiful, slim, blemishless, perfect moms, wives, and daughters and the list goes on. Could it be that you’re harbouring a subconscious belief that says you must also be the perfect ‘birther’ of life?
  4. Nature is perfect and imperfect at the same time. There is nothing like a ‘perfect birther.’ Left to nature, births happen perfectly and imperfectly all the time. Left to nature, some mothers and offspring survive, some don’t. This is the case with animals too, and not just humans. That’s just how nature works on Planet Earth. When seen from this perspective, have you ever considered that it may not even be your fault or your body’s fault that you couldn’t have a perfect natural birth?
  5. Having said that, it’s also equally true (at least for those of us on the healing path) that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. There are times when we know why we manifested a certain experience into our lives. There could be soul lessons to learn, especially if something bothers us more than it should. Looking at an experience from your soul’s perspective may help you find answers to deeper questions you may be asking and bring solace to your body, mind, heart, and soul.

In conclusion, remember, we are at a pivotal point in the story of humanity. Many of us women now have the freedom to awaken to the power of our Divine Feminine and our wombs. Nothing that you experienced – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and medically – can stop you from awakening and connecting to your womb on a whole new level. The only thing that can stop anyone is their reluctance to see events from more balanced perspectives and their unwillingness to let go of stored pain. Accepting life for what it presents while also being open to its mysteries and newer possibilities can bring peace and healing.